Galatians 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ
How much do you enjoy packing? I have to say honestly that it is not something I particularly enjoy. In fact, whenever we have a tripped planned, I typically wait until the last possible minute to do it. I have actually tried packing days in advance, but, inevitably, what happens is that I wind up over packing.
Even more than packing, I dislike unpacking. However, what makes that tolerable is when my husband and I do it together. He comes alongside me and pulls out the things that belong to him, and I do the same for my stuff. Although not a particularly fun task, having a partner working with me makes it less objectionable.
We’ve heard it over and over again, “When two people get married, they each bring their own baggage to the mix.” And it’s different for different people. How awesome would it be if, after returning from the honeymoon destination, couples would start unpacking their baggage together? What do I mean by that? Rather than trying to deal with the issues of your past alone and struggle to overcome past hurts and problems, why not take time to get all those things out in the open, sharing from your heart, with your mate doing the same. Remember, you are now one flesh. Just knowing that you have someone to help bear your burdens is priceless.
You may not have been able to do this unpacking during your first few weeks of marriage, but it’s not too late. Make a fresh start and do it now. I know what I am suggesting is asking you to enter a danger zone, and this step must be bathed in much prayer. Obviously, being open and sharing your pasts with each other requires a sacred trust that that information is not something that will not be used as a weapon against you somewhere down the road. Remember those vows that stated, “For better or worse.”? That means the good, the bad and the ugly.
So now what? You’ve unpacked your baggage together. Those bags are tattered, banged up, with scratches and scars. What should you do now? Buy some new luggage!
I often accuse my husband of having a luggage fetish because nearly every time we enter a department store, I can always find him perusing the luggage section. I don’t know what it is, but he is fascinated by it. You and your spouse’s relationship is a whole new creation. It’s time to toss out those old bags and realize that you are starting fresh and new. The most important thing to remember is that God is with you, and He is the mender of all things broken.